So things are changing,always changing,and some people can't accept change and others adapt quite well to it... I have gone through many life changes,especially in the past couple years.I found it hard to accept some changes,but soon came to terms with it...had closure,and moved on to other things,rather than just worry on something that has changed and will never be able to be the same again...
Sometimes,the most difficult changes to accept are between family members and friends...
I don't have my parents involved in my life,and a few others on my dad's side of the family...but this isn't by my choice,it's theirs...for reasons I don't understand,and probably never will.
At least I still have my sisters and grandparents,and uncles. I only want people in my life who care and accept my decisions and opinions even if they disagree...
Well, there is about to be another change in my life,not only mine but my husband's as well... his parents just cannot seem to respect our privacy and the fact that they cannot treat us like puppets....his mother is a control freak,and will bitch and whine until she gets her way on things...we love them,but just can't stand some of the things they say to us and the way they treat us.Mike has had enough of it really... so seems our relationship with them has gone downhill..
Yes,they've done a lot to help us out,we realize this and appreciated it... although,this gives them no right to treat us as if they own us..as if we owe our lives to them,and are in their dept. Tell me if Im wrong?.... I mean,we no longer can trust to accept any gifts or generous offers from them,as they then turn it against us somehow.
I think the lesson that Mike and I have learned,and Im sure friends of ours have learned through our experience also,to not ever get involved financially with the inlaws/parents..as it will turn into a disaster!!! So Mike and I are looking forward on moving to an appartment as soon as possible,and moving my horses back to KW,where I can see them as often as I'd like and not have to travel so far..It will be the first time where we are not financially connected to his parents. Renting their house was a mistake,and I knew it was a bad idea from the start...but we did it to be fair to them..they feel we ditched the farm onto them,althought that's not the case at all!!We sat down with them and had a discussion before we even moved off the farm...we told them that we cannot afford to live on the farm anymore,we were struggling so badly,we couldnt even afford to feed ourselves!It was awful,they have no idea how hard of a time we had there...but we tried and gave it our all,but that just wasn't good enough to make it by..so we had all agreed to sell the farm..well they've decided to keep the farm,so thats their choice.
Just hate how they use that farm like a gun to us...They get mad if we dont visit the farm every weekend..well,mike drives and works a lot during the weekdays and last thing he wants to do is do more driving around on the weekend,and we need some time to ourselves,and with our friends..and it is stressful traveling that far distance with Layla..but they do not care about that at all...
Well I must write more later,as Layla needs me and we are going to our friends for a lunch.
